Resisting the Clutter: The Power of Thoughtful Shopping
As the leaves change color and the holiday season draws near, one date looms large on the calendar: Black Friday. Originally a single, blow-out day of massive in-store sales, it has now expanded into a weeks-long shopping extravaganza, tempting us to spend impulsively in search of discounts both in person and online. As a professional organizer, I often witness the aftermath of these shopping sprees—items in homes accompanied by a sense of remorse for things rarely, (or never), used. Although I encourage clients to let go of these items with gratitude and take to heart the lessons learned, it’s still unpleasant acknowledge how much money has been spent on things that are now unwanted.
This year, I notice an increase in “Early Black Friday” promotions, making it even tougher to resist to call to buy, buy, buy. From my own experience, I can tell you it’s better to avoid clutter than to deal with discarding unwanted purchases later. So, this holiday season, let’s break the cycle of clutter by making intentional decisions and avoiding unnecessary purchases.
Consider this: Black Friday manipulates our emotions to encourage overspending. Advertisements play on our fears of missing out and often push us to get a jump on holiday shopping. Strategies like “buy more/save more” create a false urgency, leading many to spend more than planned, only to later regret it. The pressure to shop can also generate stress and anxiety. By opting out of the frenzy, you can foster a healthier mindset and feel more in control of your spending.
After my own KonMari Tidying Festival, I became acutely aware of what I allowed into my home. The effort I put into decluttering made me protective of my space, which in turn made it easier to resist buying more. I try to apply this intentionality to holiday gift-giving by placing the focus on gifts that can be enjoyed and used up. Although this continues to be a challenge, I’ve developed a few strategies that I employ to keep myself in check, and that I share with clients who don’t want to impulsively add clutter back into their simplified sanctuaries.
Set a Clear Budget: Before the holiday season begins, establish a budget for gifts and other holiday expenses. Having a solid financial plan in place helps you avoid impulse buys and keeps your focus on the bottom line meaning no surprises when the bills roll in.
Make a List: Write down exactly what you need, which will keep you from aimlessly browsing. When considering holiday gifts, think beyond material items. If decluttering is a priority, consider gifts that won’t add clutter. Consumables—like homemade treats or experiences—often make for thoughtful alternatives that won’t end up gathering dust.
Unsubscribe from Retail Emails: Taking a break from retail notifications can significantly reduce the temptation to shop impulsively. Even a temporary pause can help you regain control. Digital decluttering for the win!
Limit Social Media Exposure: The constant stream of ads can make resisting shopping incredibly challenging. If you’re feeling too tempted, consider taking a little break. The “snooze” button can be your ally!
Be Savvy: Reflect on your purchases from last year’s Black Friday shopping: What did you buy, and are you still using those items? If given the chance, would you make the same choices? These reflections can guide you in making thoughtful decisions this year. Make it your goal to outsmart the marketing machines. Stick to your list and resist the urge to chase after “deals.” When considering a purchase, ask yourself if it aligns with your values and long-term goals. If it does, then go ahead; if not, save your money. You can also add items to your cart and give yourself a day or two to think about it before hitting the “check-out” button. You may come back to find that you’ve changed your mind!
If you're striving for a simpler, more intentional lifestyle, apply that philosophy to your gift-giving. Consider these questions: Does this gift truly bring me joy, or am I just getting it to have something to offer? Will it delight the recipient, or will it merely contribute to their clutter? If the gift you choose enhances joy for both you and the recipient, you’re on the right track. Remember, the people you love want your time, presence, and the chance to create memories with you far more than they desire items that might eventually end up forgotten in the depths of a closet for an organizer (like me!) to find and question.
Ultimately, try to make the holiday season about connection, gratitude, and joy. Make this the year you commit to reducing clutter, regret, and financial strain. By taking a step back from the shopping frenzy, you can cultivate a more meaningful and fulfilling holiday experience, enriching both your life and the lives of those around you.
Happy Tidying!